I'm conflicted because I don't think she's having sex, but I don't know for sure. On one side I feel like she'll leave out of the GYN's office feeling like she has my permission to have sex now. On the other hand, I feel like if she's sneaking and doing it already, I'd be a fool not to protect her. Of course I've asked and of course she's said No Way. But I told my mom No Way @ 15 when I was sneaking and had her @ 16 and if history repeats itself b/c I'm being stubborn or naive, I wouldn't be able to live with myself. I don't want to encourage it, but I don't want to ignore the fact that it may be a possibility either. Any advice mom's?
Answer by rkoloms at 9:13 PM on Nov. 22, 2009
Answer by Anonymous at 3:52 PM on Nov. 22, 2009
Instead of worrying that you are giving her permission to have sex by putting her on BC, why not give her "permission" to have self-control & self-respect & skip the BC. Why not teach your children that sex outside of a loving, committed marriage isn't appropriate & that not all teens are doing it. Focus on the fact that her purity is the greatest gift she will be able to give to her husband & that it's worth protecting & saving for marriage. Our teens are far more capable of focusing on things other than drugs, sex & the like, yet society doesn't give them credit for being worthy of more. They are not hormone driven sex fiends as society would have them believe, but when it's constantly pounded into their heads that they aren't capable of abstaining & they are just slaves to their hormones, & that it's a right of passage, it's no wonder so many have no self-respect and no self-esteem...
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