My daughter is 20.She was a victim of an extremely violent crime. Her best friend throughout childhood was involved with her kidnapping, she was tortured for a day and a half then taken to a park and shot. She naturally has trust and betrayal issues. She is dating an older guy (early 30's), I know it's her choice in life; however, he cheats on her, emotionally abuses her, lies to her. I've even seen him pushing her (thats why he is banned from our home). I think she's afraid to leave him in fear of being alone. In June,she was close to a breaking point and she had an "accident" . I don't believe the story they are telling me and feel that he pushed her over the edge and she cut her wrist to show him the pain he is causing her. I see her behavior and feel she is close to breaking again...I know I can't tell her what to do, but, feel helpless sitting and doing nothing while he continues to toy with her. What would you do?
Asked by Anonymous at 6:09 PM on Nov. 22, 2009 in Adult Children (18+)
Answer by Gailll at 6:21 PM on Nov. 22, 2009
Answer by Anonymous at 6:21 PM on Nov. 22, 2009
Answer by NannyB. at 6:25 PM on Nov. 22, 2009
She does live at home and NO< she is not ready to live on her own, All of these suggestions I have tried...that is why I am feeling helpless! I Can't make her stop seeing him and I can't order her around. I certainly Can't kick her out. She has graduated school and is in the market for a job,,,but he CONSTANTLY texts and calls her. The whole ordeal is driving me nuts and my husband is getting to the point that he wants to kick her out if it's gonna effect my health. I have made it clear that if I were put in the position to choose...she wins (she'sÂ not a regular young adult with regular probs).Â He said he was sorry and it wouldn't get to that...I am not blind or stupid to realize it is a possibility. Where is Dr Phil when u need him? Thank u guys, if you have more ideas on appraoches let me know....and what anonymous was suggesting is highly unethical!!!
Answer by Anonymous at 9:19 PM on Nov. 22, 2009
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