does it drive anyone else crazy when someone says the doctor delivered the baby?

lol...I won't say you're uptight, but no, it doesn't bother me. I know what they mean...they just mean that the dr assisted with the birth, and find it easier to say he/she delivered the baby.

It doesn't bother me at all...I know what they mean.

Lol. I understand where you are coming from but no, it doesn't bother me. I don't think you are being uptight. You just pay attention to the details in someones conversations.

My sister, who is a nurse/midwife, caught the baby that I delivered...

It drives me nuts as well ;) In our society though women give control over to the Dr. and most Dr.s have the mentality that the laboring woman needs to be saved. Therefore they "deliver" the baby.

I'm not even a fan of the word deliver, pizza is delivered. I gave birth and my midwife and husband (for second birth) caught.

Yes this bugged me but what bugged me more was when my DH would say "we're pregnant". NO! I'm pregnant. We're expecting a baby.

well, the Dr. definetly delivers the baby when it's a C section. I can't stand when women say... "I delivered my baby" when they had a C section.

But yes, it bothers me very much. I usually say, I gave birth.

And also, people will say, "Bryan's having a baby". Umm... no... I'm having the baby. Hello!

I think that when we say someone else (who sat at our bums, waiting) did the "work" it transfers power~ important for empowerment.
This is a time when moms need all the strength and support they can get.


It's all just a bunch of words, really.
BUT words can be VERY powerful...

Moms should work to say that *they* deliver their own babies, definitely!


And how about when people say things like:
"Your doctor *LET* you go home after your water broke?!"
or "Your doctor *LET* you go to 42 weeks?" (Or whatever...) !!!
No-- the mom is the one who does ALL the "letting" here.
That is frustrating. :- /

Actually the word deliver in itself bothers me when we are talking about birth, its like talking about the mail. I gave birth to my children and my doctor attended the birth! Im not American and in my culture its called "duna lus", it means to give light..to me that is a much better way to call it.

i'm OP. i prefer birth to. i say i gave birth or i birthed my son, not i delivered him, and i say my CNM, husband, and nurses attended. while i consider their support invaluable during labor and birth i know i did the bulk of the work!!! ;) i do the doctor lets stuff too but i always put it in quotes, like the doctor "allows" VBAC or the doctor doesn't "allow" VBAC. :P thanks ladies for your input. glad no one says i'm uptight. lol