My dd, 15 has a friend who, like my dd, isn't allowed to date until 16. They seem to be gearing up for that from what I'm hearing/seeing. My dd has a bf in school who we aren't too fond of (was at the house before), but still likes him. Now the friend has also been asked by someone to "go out", and met up w/him at the Homecoming dance 2 weeks ago, pretty innocent supervised stuff. But, her Mom doesn't know about it and when My dd told me I said "well, she's not supposed to be dating" and my dd said "well, if I'd known that I wouldn't have told you" I assured her I wasn't going to say anything. But, I saw an e-mail left open on the computer where this friend said "Maybe we can meet at the movies and (BF) will meet us there, too, tee, hee." It never happened, but now I'm thinking she's a bit sneaky. My dd has been honest about her communications w/her bf, not sneaky at all..she knows she better not!
You are in a no win situation. I feel for you. But saying something will betray your daughters trust and not tell makes you a irresponsible adult. Its a hard call. If you care you should tell. I know it won't make you feel good at all. But If I found out that you were letting my daughter sneak around you are just as guilty as they are. You need to talk to them and let them know. You are the adult. What if someone was to do that to you?? How would you feel?? Just think about that.
Answer by akmami0f4 at 9:31 AM on Nov. 24, 2009
Answer by dflygirl7 at 9:44 AM on Nov. 24, 2009
Answer by ronjwake at 3:13 PM on Nov. 24, 2009
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