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so is it really fair to make him pay child support?

when he never wanted the baby in the first place? We as women have a choice. We can abort if we do not want the baby.. mistakes happen but we have all the power.
Why doesn't a man have that choice? If you get pregnant and the guy immediatly says hell no! Why does he have to dish out a check every week?

 
Anonymous

Asked by Anonymous at 12:43 AM on Nov. 25, 2009 in Relationships

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  • but women also have control to NOT get pregnant by a guy that doesnt even love them.. isnt it really our responsibility to NOT get pregnant?
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 12:47 AM on Nov. 25, 2009

  • Because he used his nasty little pecker to impregnate someone. He should have used the brain in his head before the one in his pants. Men have control of whether or not they have kids... it is called using a condom.
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 12:46 AM on Nov. 25, 2009

  • anon, sometimes condom fail.

    But the man did have a choice to keep what's his, in his own pants.

    But in some states a parent (usually the father) can sign off parental rights for this very reason.
    outstandingLove

    Answer by outstandingLove at 12:48 AM on Nov. 25, 2009

  • no anon.
    it's both persons responsibility. A woman can not impregnate herself. Someone has to help her along. It takes two.
    outstandingLove

    Answer by outstandingLove at 12:49 AM on Nov. 25, 2009

  • so is it really fair to make him pay child support?
    Yes, it is
    when he never wanted the baby in the first place?
    Should've kept it in his pants, then.
    Why doesn't a man have that choice?
    He did - he had the choice to not get laid.
    Why does he have to dish out a check every week?
    Because it's his kid.
    Laura1229

    Answer by Laura1229 at 12:52 AM on Nov. 25, 2009

  • Even though it's both their fault regardless there is a baby it is not the baby's fault so the father has to help support it wheather he wanted the baby or not. It becomes a whole new life for them some dad's just don't want nothing to do with paying child support that is why in some states are so strict.kissing dad

    Butterfly1108

    Answer by Butterfly1108 at 12:53 AM on Nov. 25, 2009

  • but didnt the woman have the choice to keep her legs closed? why is she having sex with men that dont love her enough to stick around if she does get pregnant? isnt that her responsibility before spreading her legs??
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 12:57 AM on Nov. 25, 2009

  • Both of them had a responsibility, but regardless of that, a child was born. That child deserves support. Physical and monetary support.
    AdensMommy1107

    Answer by AdensMommy1107 at 1:10 AM on Nov. 25, 2009

  • I think OP is really a man trying to defend himself for getting someone knocked up.
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 3:29 AM on Nov. 25, 2009

  • "but didnt the woman have the choice to keep her legs closed? why is she having sex with men that dont love her enough to stick around if she does get pregnant? isnt that her responsibility before spreading her legs??"

    By that same standard, he has the choice to not try to get her to open her legs. And why is HE having sex with women that he doesn't love, and who don't love him in return? Isn't that HIS responsibility before she spreads her legs?
    tropicalmama

    Answer by tropicalmama at 8:02 AM on Nov. 25, 2009

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