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Could you be so kind as to stop judging us?

We're SAHM's, but that doesn't mean we're poor and on Welfare. We're on WIC, but that doesn't mean we can't afford our children. WIC is supplimental assitance for nutritional benefits, not a soul provider. We don't co-sleep, but that doesn't mean we're distancing our children. We don't wear our children, but that doesn't mean we're abandoning their needs. We don't breastfeeding, but that doesn't mean we're ruining our children's health or success at life. We don't live up to your standards, but that doesn't make us bad parents. I read on here all the time how what we don't do is ruining our children. We're not. Your method of parenting isn't the begin and end all of parenting. I hear that SAHM's are poor, on welfare, and can't provide for their children. That's not true. You raise your children however you want to, and live your lives however you see fit. I just ask one thing, could you stop judging us? Because We're not you!

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Asked by JazzlikeMraz at 10:25 AM on Nov. 25, 2009 in General Parenting

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  • Amen.

    Answer by armywife2009101 at 10:27 AM on Nov. 25, 2009

  • Thank You!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Amen!

    Answer by My3RaysofSun at 10:29 AM on Nov. 25, 2009

  • You tell them jazz

    Answer by Mommy2Be1212009 at 10:30 AM on Nov. 25, 2009

  • Well said.

    Answer by Noosa at 10:32 AM on Nov. 25, 2009

  • That is not not all on on welfare, etc but a majority of them are and the ones that come on here and brag about how they bought this or that with their food stamps etc are giving the rest of you a bad name. Very well said though!

    Answer by lapcounter at 10:34 AM on Nov. 25, 2009

  • Is this about the one post about the mom who was complaining because WIC was pressuring her to BF?

    Answer by Anonymous at 10:39 AM on Nov. 25, 2009

  • Then those are the ones you should be chastising. However, it is all of us who are getting judged regardless of how other people handle their own. Don't generalize us all because of a couple of people who choose to abuse the system. Everytime someone posts on this website about being on WIC, being a SAHM, or how they don't BF they get reemed. Every single one of them do. People on this website are judging us all and we've all had enough. If people choose to abuse the system, or are neglectful, or can't provide for their children then they shouldn't have what they have. However, I'm speaking for those of us who don't abuse the system, can provide for our children, and do deserve what we have. We are getting judged. Because some people are rotten doesn't justify you or anyone else judging us. Period.

    Answer by JazzlikeMraz at 10:40 AM on Nov. 25, 2009

  • i agree....people are looking for support not bashing...constructive criticism should be expected but being told that you are a terrible parent is wrong

    Answer by denisekeene at 10:41 AM on Nov. 25, 2009

  • Anon 9:39, this is not just about that post. This is about all the posts, responses, and what have you. I'm speaking for all of those who aren't bad parents, who don't abuse the system, and who are SAHM's, on WIC, whatever and get a bad name. We aren't bad people just because a select few are.

    Answer by JazzlikeMraz at 10:41 AM on Nov. 25, 2009

  • Thank You DeniseKeene. Agreed.

    Answer by JazzlikeMraz at 10:42 AM on Nov. 25, 2009

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