My SD is 3 years old. She is perceptive, emotional, and empathetic beyond her years. Her grandmother (my husband's mother), whom she is very close to, is on her death bed. In the event of her death, I am torn as to what to do. Undoubtedly, the casket will be open at the viewing. Do we bring my SD? She understands that grandma is sick and may soon go to heaven to be with God. I feel we have prepared her well for the upcoming loss, and I know she can accept it. But I worry about her actually seeing the body. I'm a SAHM, so I spend all day, every day with her, and I know her very well. She dwells so heavily on things. I'd hate for that image to be stuck in her mind, along with wondering why grandma is laying dead in a box. At the same time, I want her to have closure. Her grandma has been a big part of her life...
Any suggestions, ladies? I want to do right by my little girl.
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We went through this when my dad passed away and then again when my grandfather passed away. We decided not to take my boys but took my infant daughter, My brother brought my nieces (both the same ages as my younger two) his oldest was 3 at the time, she did fine until the graveside service when they had closed the casket and brought it to the gravesite. That is when she was the most upset, she understood but the reality that papa was going to be put in the ground was too much for her to handle. the viewing was held at the same time as the service, then we went to the grave site. I would pick which situation you feel she could handle best. when my grandfather passed 2 years later we took the boys but my husband stayed outside the room with the kids, my boys didn't want to go in. My brother left his daughters outside the room also, he didn't want a repeat of my dads service.
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