I don't know what it is but it is very real and I cannot ignore the truth. My oldest is 3, and while I love her dearly and would die for her, I have a much deeper connection to my 1 year old. They come from different fathers, the father of the 1 year old I'm married to and my oldest thinks of him as her dad, her bio-dad abandoned her before she was born. We're also having our 2nd (my 3rd) in 2 months. I don't know if this is excusable or not, but just hours after I had my oldest she was taken from me to the nicu and I couldn't see her for 2 days because I was bed-ridden on an IV med for high blood pressure. When I got home with her 5 days later I slept a lot, hated getting up with her and suffered postpartum anxiety. After the birth of my 2nd, my bp was fine, she was in great health, stayed with me 24/7 in the hospital and our relationship is much stronger. Do I need help to gain a better connection with her?? :(
Asked by Anonymous at 11:11 PM on Nov. 25, 2009 in Relationships
Answer by outstandingLove at 11:25 PM on Nov. 25, 2009
Answer by Anonymous at 11:23 PM on Nov. 25, 2009
Answer by happymom1988 at 12:39 AM on Nov. 26, 2009
Answer by Blubuni99 at 2:21 AM on Nov. 26, 2009
Well, My grandmother favored my uncle more than mom and her sister. My great-aunt favors one son over her other. My aunt has 4 children and favors one son over the other 3. My uncles wife doted on her daughter and not her other 2 boys. ... I think it's natural. And when I was pregnant with #2 I wondered if I could ever love another baby the way I love my first born, and I do. One is 8 and the other is 2. Right now I have to say I don't favor either of them. My eldest is special needs and requires more of my time at times, but I enjoy them equally thus far.
Answer by Austinsmom35 at 8:44 AM on Nov. 26, 2009