Yes, make sure she knows she is being punished for lying. As for whatever she is afraid to tell you, don't freak out or get too punitive over falling short. Somehow, I got it in my head when I was young that I couldn't stand to disappoint my parents. I grew up being a pleaser and now, I have jeopardized my marriage more than once over not being able to tell my husband bad news. It doesn't help that he freaks out over things and turns into a worry-wart. I can't bear to 'fail' before others. I wish my parents had treated me a little less like a favorite. They didn't mean to, but I got the idea that I was more of a 'satisfying' child than my brothers and wanted to be like my sister, who was also very accomplished and a joy to be with. I wanted to be liked as much as she was.
at 1:55 PM on Nov. 27, 2009