If a girl is brought up with an antisocial father....

She is over 12 she can legally choose not to go back over there. If he wants to see his daughter than they can meet in a park or something.

Bring a book, bring some homework, a deck of cards, hobbies, such as paper and pens, etc....

Legally that is correct, however, he would raise holy cain and she knows this and doesn't want to cause turmoil.

Btw, my dd is a social girl who finds more interest in "doing things" than sitting with paper and pens.

Who cares what she wants to do. Seriously. Kids are so spoiled. Have her bring *GASP* a BOOK or a deck of cards or a craft with her. Tell her to simply enjoy being with her dad. Gosh.

Talk to her father about it, he needs to know that this is an issue for her and that she has no enjoyment being there under those conditions

She is 15, she doesn't need to be "entertained" every minute of every day she spends with her father, she has plenty of time for a social life when she is home. Tell her to learn to entertain herself by reading a book or something. She just *might* find it interesting. Perhaps if she actually talked to her father, she could discover something he is interested in and actually get to know him on a more than superficial level. A person doesn't need 255 TV channels and a full social calendar to keep his child interested. It is quite possible he cancels all social engagements during the time she is to be staying at his house to--gasp!--spend time with her. (Only to have her come running back to complain that he lives too quietly.)

This is OP and I lived with the man for 9 years of marriage. He suffers depression and the things she's talking about are true. He sleeps all day (while she is there). She feels isolated and alone while there, and while I don't expect great entertainement ventures, he is her parent and should at least be in the same room with her to "hang out" and also make and eat meals with her. She used to text me on her phone when she was bored, until he took her texting away saying it was costing him too much. Now she can't even call me or her friends because, again, he says she's wasting her minutes and its costing him too much. I have talked with her father about this. He "takes it into consideration" and then goes back to his bad habits.