I went to my boyfriend's cousin's for Thanksgiving dinner last night. His ex girlfriend was there with another cousin who happens to be gay. She said hello to me and acted very cordial.....My boyfriend ended up hiding from her all night. I didn't think much of it, but I still felt very uncomfortable. I felt like people were comparing us and waiting for some drama. I didn't give it to them....just grinned and bore it. Would it still bother you to be with her at Thanksgiving dinner? I am very shy about being with certain members of my boyfriends family and I also feel like they don't except me. The way they were looking was as if they wanted my boyfriend to rekindle the relationship they had that lasted a month....I've been with him three years. I just wonder who would feel uncomfortable in this situation or is it me?Answer Question
Answer by serioussifL at 9:27 AM on Nov. 27, 2009
Answer by sailorwifenmom at 9:42 AM on Nov. 27, 2009
It sounds to me like you have problems from your boyfriends family, not the ex-girlfriend. It is quite possible she was as uncomfortable as you were, and also hiding it for the sake of a peaceful holiday. His relationship with her lasted one month, and you've been with him three years? It should be crystal clear to everyone what his preferences are, but since his relatives seem unable to understand this, maybe he needs to sit them down and have a chat with them, telling them exactly how things stand, and that they can either accept you as the woman in his life, or they will find themselves OUT of his life. It's rather drastic, but some people just can't figure things out for themselves, they have to be TOLD straight out. The longer this continues, the more of a habit it will get to be, and it can get worse, or at least more irritating as time goes on.
Answer by pagan_mama at 9:54 AM on Nov. 27, 2009
Answer by lowencope at 10:41 AM on Nov. 27, 2009
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