Is it okay for my step children to give their father away at our wedding?

I wouldn't call it "giving him away". That could be damaging to the kids. You could call it sharing him with you. They aren't losing a father, they are gaining a step-mother, so they shouldn't have to look at is as giving him away. Having them walk down the aisle with you both is a nice idea. It's a cute idea, and I know that there aren't any ill intentions behind it, but depending on the ages of the children, it's a fragile situation. What about having them be a ring bearer or flower girl or even a best man/maid of honor? I don't know their genders so I'm just throwing ideas out there lol. Good luck with whatever you decide and congratulations on your marriage!

It sounds like a great idea.

It is your wedding. Do it your way. Theknot.com has some really nice ideas for commiting to the family esp. for marriages like yours. Special vows or small gifts bringing the children into the circle of the family are reallly meaningful ways to do that. Having the kids 'give him away' is tricky...it could make them feel like they are losing him to you. What if the kids..gave YOU to him.? That way they are consenting to taking you too as a stepMom.

I like the idea of including them in the wedding, it would be perfectly fine for them to walk him down the aisle. I have friends who included her daughters when it was time to light the unity candle in their ceremony. They worked the kids into certain vows, made it more about becoming a family than just man and wife. And both girls were junior bridesmaids.

That sounds so cute. Awww, the love. <3

It's your wedding. Whatever you want is the right thing to do. There are not many no nos anymore.

I think the previous responders words of "sharing" rather than giving away sounds so great! I think this would be so special on the invites as well as actually doing it during the ceremony.

Greeneyegrandma, I love your answer, the kids giving stepmom to dad...great!!!

Call it presenting him to you.Its a cute idea.

I was just using the term "give away" in wedding terms, but what we will be doing is asking "who gives their blessing for this man to marry this woman" This is where I would like the boys to step up and speak. They are 9 and 11 and I've been mom for 6 years now and the only mother figure they have. It is because of them we finally set at date. They've been begging for a few years now we tie the knot! However as I have no family to speak for me, I think it is more appropriate that the children give their father their blessings.