How to deal with these awkward questions.......

dont explain anything...just say the baby is doing great and show them a pic if you have one. Unless you are wanting sympathy from everyone...just leave it at that

It is extremely difficult and awkward to explain to people why you are not raising your baby. This is something that you will always face. Not certain that there is much you can do to make it better. People honestly do not understand or know what to say. I think what you say to people may vary depending on who they are. For some people, you might want to offer some logical explanation (if possible), and for others you might not feel comfortable doing so. You are not obliged to say anything unless you choose to do so. If someone is curious enough, they can ask and you can share as much or as little info as you wish.

A good friend of mine recently told the rest of my coworkers she had placed her oldest child for adoption. We told her the truth.....she is an amazing mother and person and this doesn't change that. Then we asked if she wanted to share pictures of him. She did and we did like we do for all coworkers' pictures- we say how beautiful he is. I'm sorry they don't know what to say. In my friend's case we were just supportive and happy for her she is part of his life.

A good way to avoid further silence is to say something like, "It was my decision that he/she be placed for adoption. How is (insert their mother's name, husband, something about their job, etc)?." When you ask a question at the end of your answer, it changes the subject in a gentle way that begs a response to something positive from them. If they poke further, just say you'd rather not talk about it.

For people who saw me pregnant and don't really know me too well, I just show them a picture and tell them how he is doing. I might say something like, ''Oh he just started crawling'' or whatever. It's really non of their business and I don't want to deal with the awkwardness or possible mean comments. And then, just change the subject! If you don't have a picture just yet, just tell them he/she is doing well and leave it at that.

I told them he lives with his father. Which was true but cowardly.