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Whats the difference between a funeral and a wake?


Asked by Anonymous at 11:07 AM on Nov. 28, 2009 in Religion & Beliefs

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  • A funeral is your final good-bye for the departed... it's either at a Church followed by the Cemetery burial or a small service at the funeral home then Cemetery...
    The Wake is usually a gathering of the friends and families of the departed at either a restraunt or home/hall to talk, remember the person... most often food is served... and this usually takes place immediately after the burial/service....

    Answer by gmasboy at 11:13 AM on Nov. 28, 2009

  • a wake u sit there and talk about a person and what type of life they lived and whom they left behind. A funeral is where u put them into the ground

    Answer by Anonymous at 11:08 AM on Nov. 28, 2009

  • I'm from NC and live in VA. A wake is when the family and friends gather in the evening before the funeral day. The casket will there, sometimes open, so people can say their last respects. It's very informal, no service type prayer or anything. Then the funeral is the next day. You meet in a church or building, casket up front. The preacher will say some words and pray. Then you ride to the cemetary and say another prayer...then that's it.

    Answer by forevermom75 at 1:24 PM on Nov. 28, 2009


    Answer by autodidact at 3:03 PM on Nov. 28, 2009

  • Originally a wake was a vigil over the body. Some theorize that the term wake came from people watching to see if the person would wake up, because people were mistaken for dead often enough for people to worry, but that is just a popular theory. It often had to do with "supernatural" issues & the person/people holding vigil were often watching out for certain problems that might arise, usually things that would cause the spirit of the person to be unable to rest. The supernatural issues are usually unknown now & no longer a motivation for a wake, which is mostly cultural/social now.


    Answer by nysa00 at 3:28 PM on Nov. 28, 2009

  • The funeral is where the body is buried, the wake is the party afterwards.

    Answer by RhondaVeggie at 10:03 PM on Nov. 28, 2009

  • A wake is where people visit the body and pay some final respects. It is usually held the night before and lasts for about 2 hours. The funeral is usually held in a church and its where everyone gives the eulogies and then a preacher will give a sermon and say a prayer, loved ones say goodbye for the last time, then you leave for the cemetery for what I think is called the commital.

    Answer by Auntiemom410 at 12:56 AM on Nov. 29, 2009

  • For Catholics, there are 3 main parts to a funeral - the vigil or "wake", the funeral liturgy (which often includes the celebration of Mass), and the rite of committal. A wake or vigil precedes the funeral liturgy. The wake can take place in a home of the deceased, in the funeral home, in the church, or in some other suitable place. It's the time to come together and provide support for the family and pray with them. It can be a few hours or a few days long. The funeral liturgy is at a church is the actual service for the deceased and usually includes a Mass. The committal ordinarily takes place where the body of the deceased is to be buried (or "committed") to the ground, or where the remains are to be interred. And it's the final prayers.

    Answer by eringobrough at 12:42 PM on Nov. 29, 2009