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Are you more or less sexual then your partner?

When my husband and I were first together we had sex a lot. Then over the last 2 (almost 3) years I have become less interested in sex. As a whole I've never been a very sexually driven person. It wasn't that I wasn't interested, I just didn't have the want for it very often. As the years have past since he and I have been together I have wanted it less and less. My interest in it has all but diminished recently. The only reason I have sex anymore is because I know it makes him happy. Most recently I just can't keep the face up during sex. I lose interest, it loses its appeal, and I can't even find it in myself to fake it for him. My husband is growing more and more frustrated, because he wants me to want it. I want to want it, but I can't bring myself to do so. Has anyone felt like this? Are you more or less sexual then your partner?

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Anonymous

Asked by Anonymous at 8:47 PM on Nov. 28, 2009 in Just for Fun

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  • It varies. It used to be I was WAY more sexual than him, but as time passed (& then with pregnancy & having a newborn) I am far less interested than he is. Have you tried changing things up?? Sometimes a change can help. Try going & getting some naughty lingerie or maybe a toy if you feel comfortable. Try reading some adult literature or watching a softcore movie (to share amongst the two of you or to get you in the mood prior). Talk it out, sometimes getting it all out there can help too. =) If you'd like to talk to someone or need suggestions or advice or just someone to vent to about it, send me a PM...I've helped a lot of couples overcome their slumps & difficulties...
    WannabeMommy87

    Answer by WannabeMommy87 at 8:56 PM on Nov. 28, 2009

  • Talk to you OBGYN, you may be having hormone fluxuations and they can help you. Of course you will get the "how is your relationship" questions first but I think they can do blood work and help you find out if it is medical condition. Certain medications can also make you feel that way too.
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 9:13 PM on Nov. 28, 2009

  • Thank you everyone! That was very helpful! I'll definately take all of those suggestions in!!
    JazzlikeMraz

    Answer by JazzlikeMraz at 5:29 PM on Nov. 29, 2009

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