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Going to bed issues...

My son is almost 3 and is a great kid, however, getting him to bed is the thorn in my side.
It's not that he puts up a fight or anything he just keeps getting up and playing or "reading" stories to himself.
We'll do his bedtime routine(the same on he's had since he was 2 months old) and have him in bed by 8pm(at the latest) but he always gets up and screws around until 10pm sometimes 11pm.

He takes one nap during the day. I've tried shortening it, I've tried skipping it all together and nothing. No change to how late he stays up.

We've tried taking toys out of his room, laying with him for a while, going in every few minutes to put him back in bed and turn off his light...nothing.

How do we get him to go to bed at a normal time? This lack of "down time" for myself, sucks.


Asked by Laila-May at 8:06 AM on Nov. 29, 2009 in Preschoolers (3-4)

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  • It took me 3 weeks just to keep my toddler in his new regular bed. 2-3 weeks might not be long enough. You can't make him sleep, but you can make him stay in bed....get in there, put him back in bed, put him back, put him back, put him back. He's plenty old enough that when you say "stay in bed" he should do it.

    Answer by Anonymous at 6:29 PM on Nov. 29, 2009

  • Be firm. be consistent. he knows he can get away with it because he has been able to for years so far. first time go in take away toys, books etc and say in a firm voice time for bed go to sleep. second time you have to go in the room take away toys etc and say go to sleep in a very very firm voice. third time (and any time after that) just take away toys etc and walk out of the room. DO NOT engage him or talk to him. the more you talk and or tr to reason or explain to him the longer he stays up and he gets more of what he wants. If you have to remove toys etc from room, or take them away as a punishment for a week. make sure to turn off the TV and computer and video games at least 30 minutes before bedtime (or more) dim the lights have a quiet calming atmosphere in the house. At 3 he should be able to put himself in bed and go right to sleep G/L


    Answer by Anonymous at 8:32 AM on Nov. 29, 2009

  • Actually he hasn't been able to "get away with it" for years. This is something new that's started up in the past 7 months or so. He used to go to bed just fine.

    We've done all of that. He doesn't get to use the computer and his tv watching is minimal throughout the day.

    He will eventually get into bed and put himself to sleep but it's not until 10pm or 11pm.

    We are firm believers in consistency but if something still has made no difference after 2 or 3 weeks we feel that we should try another approach.

    Answer by Laila-May at 8:41 AM on Nov. 29, 2009

  • If he likes reading books, have him read ones about going to bed & staying in bed.  When kids see their favorite character in a book or movie act a certain way, they want to also.    Maybe this will help him understand that he shouldn't be getting out of bed. 

    Here is also an article about kids and bedtime which might be helpful


    Answer by momjs at 9:35 AM on Nov. 30, 2009