My husband has a brother, seven years younger who has a son the same age as my son. They are now four years old. When we see them once a year for a holiday the nephew is violent to our son repeatedly, randomly and with increasing violence. His parents do nothing to correct the nephew and have said "that is so cute" and "boys will be boys" and "Yours is too sensitive and sisssy and nephew is toughening him up, you are welcome" or "let them work it out"
The last time I saw these people was last september 08. The nephew threw a big ball of wet sand into my son's face and thought it was funny. I took my son and left the house without saying goodbye. They were offended that I left as if I were saying they are bad parents.
My husbands mother makes things worse by acting like we are both over reacting. She just wants to smooth things over like there is nothing wrong.
Asked by Anonymous at 1:20 AM on Nov. 30, 2009 in Preschoolers (3-4)
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Answer by NightPhoenix at 2:04 AM on Nov. 30, 2009
My first responsibility is to my child. He needs to know that I am going to protect him in all situations, that I would never let anyone abuse or harm him. This is my first priority. His trust in me is essential...his future depends on it. When he is older and needs a person to confide in or has a situation where someone is harming him - his trust in me is what will allow him to let me into his world. So if my in-laws were not able to assist my nephew and redirect his behavior I would leave. Or not come at all if this were consistent. I'm not one for drama and don't give a damn what my in-laws say. If they start calling and causing a fuss then I'd drop their asses. My in-laws know to back off because I did drop my parents. I haven't spoken to them in over a year because of my mother's self created drama. Don't do drama Mama...just protect your child. He needs to know you don't accept violence from anyone.
Answer by frogdawg at 7:16 PM on Nov. 30, 2009