Okay so MIL is the controlling, manipulative, lying type. Long story short I've amused her for twelve years now and no longer want to be her punching bag. Apparently this has made the men in the family (my DH and FIL) very uncomfortable. I decided to try and be an adult about it and talk with her tonight at the request of my DH and FIL. Well it turned out to be a disaster. She refuses to acknowledge anything she's done to me, lied about situations that never happened, and made a complete ass out of herself with her screaming antics. We all know she's got issues but everyone keeps making excuses for her behavior because they don't want to deal with her and pawn her off on me. Whatever, I'm just tired of her antics. Now that I've removed myself from the situation she's focused on torturing them which leads them back to coaxing me into making amends with her.
Since she won't budge, how do we move forward?
Asked by Anonymous at 6:18 AM on Nov. 30, 2009 in Relationships
Answer by Anonymous at 6:22 AM on Nov. 30, 2009
Answer by louise2 at 6:36 AM on Nov. 30, 2009
I think what you are doing is the only thing you could do in this situation.
Answer by louise2 at 6:38 AM on Nov. 30, 2009
Answer by Nyx7 at 7:05 AM on Nov. 30, 2009
My DH and his family have always catered to his mom out of fear. Out of respect for him I took her verbal insults and rudeness for several years. Then I became pregnant with #2, she acted out and at that point I had zero tolerance for her childish behavior and I did what you did, I walked away. They can continue to have a relationship if my DH chooses, but I'm out of it. And she LOVES to play the victim "Oh, poor me, look how they treat me" kind of thing. The last straw for me is when she stormed out on us at a restaurant because she didn't get her way. I told my DH I would not allow her to walk in and out of my children's lives like that (she went years without contacting my DH until I became pregnant with #1). You have to do what's best for you. Tell the men to grow up and deal with the monster they created...
Answer by Anonymous at 9:55 AM on Nov. 30, 2009
Answer by ecodani at 10:29 AM on Nov. 30, 2009
Answer by Anonymous at 11:02 AM on Nov. 30, 2009
Answer by dakotasmommy06 at 9:27 PM on Nov. 30, 2009