My husband died 14 months ago. He had cancer. My daughter was very sad, naturally, and she lost interest in everything. I took her to a therapist who told me I had to be fun so my daughter could she life is fun. So I stopped all the crying and mourning in frond of her and I started taking her to the zoo, entertainment parks, trips etc. so she could have some fun. Nothing worked though. I decided to move from NY to California where all my and my late husband's family lives so my DD could have people she felf comfortable with around her. She was very happy with that for the first couple of weeks, but then she returned to being sad all the time. She was an amazingly happy girl before her father died. Now she's almost 7 and she is not interested in toys, games, making friends and generally having fun.
What would you do?
Asked by Anonymous at 12:28 PM on Nov. 30, 2009 in General Parenting
Try this, but she will need time http://www.keepkidshealthy.com/PARENTING_TIPS/death_and_loss.html Hope this helps
Answer by Anonymous at 12:37 PM on Nov. 30, 2009
Encourage her to join in activities. But people grieve in there own time. I would find a counselor in you new area. Let her know how you are grieving and how your late husband would want her live a full life. Also maybe find a support group for her age, other kids going through the same thing might help her to cope better. I bet there is some kind of camp for this. Maybe celebrate your late husbands birthday together, doing something he would have loved. As a way to honoring him and celebrate his life and love for you two. This way she knows that he has not been forgotten and that he will always be in her heart. Also maybe a scrape book full of stories, pictures, trinkets that celebrate him. Let your daughter be the primary creator, help her to remember him in a positive manner (if she is willing). And just be there for her, let her know if it is okay to feel how every she feels. My heart goes out to you both.
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