Well when we first met I wasn't sure if I wanted to b with him (bc he had kids) long story short we got married and everything is perfect except he is a jealous person I hate it bc I can naturally be looking around just talking to him and just bc he sees a decent good looking guy he says I am looking at him.(Man that just makes me so mad I start to get a big knot in my stomach) like damn here we go again. I just tell him your dumb for thinking that and stop feeling insecure do somethng about it if it bothers you that much. I just hate for it to go to this. He mad I'm mad all bc of him.
C'mon men look at beautiful ladies...he says but I only have eyes for you yeah right maybe but we are only human. Not to mention maybe I did look but I did not mean nothing by it you know ladies sometimes our eyes tend to slip alittle to the side...lol
I would never do anything to jeapordize our marriage and kids. thanks ladies and help!
Asked by Anonymous at 9:37 AM on Dec. 1, 2009 in Relationships
Answer by Zakysmommy at 9:41 AM on Dec. 1, 2009
Answer by tropicalmama at 9:58 AM on Dec. 1, 2009
Answer by JustAMom2008 at 10:34 AM on Dec. 1, 2009
Answer by JazzlikeMraz at 12:18 PM on Dec. 1, 2009
I was like that when I first got with my now husband, and I've learned it only hurts the relationship and causes a lot of unnecessary fights. Seeing how I've been in his situation, my advice to him is really, he just needs to let it go and learn to deal with it. It has been a major relief for our marriage since I quit being so insecure when a pretty girl caught my husband's attention. I've learned that I'm not the prettiest thing out there, and he has to come to terms with that too, that there's going to be attractive men out there. Remind him that looks are not of any importance. Really, there not that important. Not nearly as important as having someone who loves, respects, and treats you good, or someone with a great personality. The "inner" person is SO much more valuable than the outer appearance. I really don't care anymore what my DH sees now, and it's much easier that way, because I know he's human and he has eyes.
Answer by Anonymous at 11:59 PM on Dec. 1, 2009
Answer by Anonymous at 12:05 AM on Dec. 2, 2009
Oh yea, and I have something else. Ask your DH this. Does he look at nice looking cars? Furniture? Guns? etc. I'm sure he does, and so does everyone else in this world. You stick a brand new Corvette beside an old, ragged Ford Escort, you can bet people are going to check out the Corvette. What's the difference in looking at someone attractive and looking at something attractive? It's just looks. When you decorate your house, you're going to look for the good looking furniture, paint colors, Tv's etc. You're going to notice the nice furniture, it's just natural to.
Answer by Anonymous at 12:14 AM on Dec. 2, 2009