I know that many of us would like to hear from adoptees who have grown up with open adoption. Most of us realize that there are still painful issues of loss to work out, but we hope that when adoption is necessary, having openness will benefit the adoptee.
For adult adoptees who did not grow up with open adoptions, how do you think you would have felt about that? I know that, if asked, children would say they want to stay with their mother/firstmother and not be placed. I also realize that children have no say in the matter. Do you think that open adoption would have been preferable so you would not have been cut off from your genetic heritage?
I grew up in a very open adoption, and I am 27 years old. I can't speak for anyone else but I will be more than happy to answer any questions. Growing up I always knew why my birth mother chose to give me to my adoptive family and I was very thankful. My birth mother was very close to my adoptive family so she got to see me when ever she really chose to, my birth father also was able to contact me but really didn't choose to contact me until I was in my teens. I can not say enough good things about open adoption, I always knew about my heritage, it was like having a giant family, when I was younger I had some major medical issues and because of the openness the doctors were able to ask about about my family's medical history and were able to not only save my life but cure me. If anyone has anymore questions feel free to pass me a note..
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