In order for you to move past it at all, he has to first admit to you that what he did was wrong, that he is truly sorry, and that he intends for it to never happen again. He also has to be willing to work at restoring your trust in him. If he hasn't done those things, it's impossible for you to just "get over it." You can forgive him in the sense that you don't wish something terrible to happen to him, but too often women think that they are the ones who have to do all the work of restoring the marriage. That is not the case. The burden of proof has to be on him since he's the one who strayed. If he doesn't realize that what he did was wrong, there is little to no hope of your marriage getting back on track.
at 1:42 PM on Dec. 2, 2009