how to get my nearly 4yo to use the potty all the time, she seems to get distracted and not go potty, but if i ask he frequantly if she has to go she gets upset and it seems to make the problem worse, bucause than she dosn't want to tell me shes wet. any ideas on how to keep her focused without nagging?
i don't know about yout situation but is it the actual potty that upsets her?My daughter hated the very idea of the potty but was fine when i got a step and a seat for the normal toilet.She was trained quite early and much happier when the potty was taken away.
She's 4, you need to remind her to go potty. It's quite common for 4 years olds to get distracted and not know that they need to go potty. Your job as the mom is to help her by reminding her frequently to take potty breaks. Over time she will develop a better ability to sense when she needs to go even if she's busy having a good time. You don't ASK her if she needs to go, you SEND her.
at 10:11 AM on Dec. 3, 2009
Have her start cleaning up any messes she makes. If she wets herself then she has to change her own clothes, clean up an that got on the floor (where ever) and rinse out her wet clothes or whatever else it is you do with the wet stuff/dirty stuff. Sure, many kids still easily get distracted at this age but she's old enough to be able to understand her body's signals You constantly reminding her or making her go isn't going to teach her to listen to her body. That's one of those solutions that is easier for the parents and teaches the child nothing. Adults don't use the bathroom at even intervals (like every 2 hours) during the day. We go when we feel the urge. she needs to learn that, too.
Tell her she now needs to be responsible for herself and that includes cleaning up the messes she makes.