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Would you get her a gift

My brother's gf lives with him. I'm sending gifts for my niece (his daughter from a previous marriage, it is NOT his gf's) and my brother. I've never met his gf. The gifts will be sent (we won't actually be there when they are opened.) Should I get her a gift or not? I was just thinking a gift card or something if I do it at all.

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Asked by Anonymous at 11:23 AM on Dec. 3, 2009 in Holidays

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  • Send something small, as a nice gesture. But I wouldn't spend much on this woman you don't know and won't be seeing.

    Answer by Anonymous at 11:25 AM on Dec. 3, 2009

  • I think you could send something small. A cute idea is a nice kitchen towel with a utensil tied onto it and a note saying you are looking forward to meeting her.

    Answer by ria7 at 11:28 AM on Dec. 3, 2009

  • RIA_ I wish I was as creative as you! You have wonderful ideas! ;)

    Answer by dorie84 at 11:29 AM on Dec. 3, 2009

  • I would send a token gift

    Answer by acollins09 at 11:29 AM on Dec. 3, 2009

  • I agree with Anon..something don't know how long your brother will be with don't spend alot..I think a gift cards nice.

    Answer by MamasAngelPie at 11:29 AM on Dec. 3, 2009

  • I would send a small gift. Bath & Body or Avon has great gifts for under $10.00

    Answer by mommorgan at 11:30 AM on Dec. 3, 2009

  • Send a little something, a bottle of hand lotion, or a candle and a nice note that says have heard how great you are!

    Answer by kimigogo at 11:31 AM on Dec. 3, 2009

  • I would send something, but it doesn't have to be anything big. A small gift card, or I like Ria's idea, too. Just something so that she doesn't feel like she's being snubbed by his family. Especially if they are living together; if they were only dating, I might say it isn't really necessary.

    Answer by tropicalmama at 11:36 AM on Dec. 3, 2009

  • OP here

    Now what if I send a gift card and the amount is considerably lower than the amount of a gift card I give my brother? Is that a gifting faux pas (sp on that one LOL) ? Like, if his is 40, and hers was 20? (Completely different places obviously)

    Answer by Anonymous at 11:49 AM on Dec. 3, 2009

  • I wouldn't send a gift card where the amounts could be compared. If you just want to send gift cards just put both their names on one card. If it were me I would send a candle, an inexpensive necklace or some yummy bubble bath. Something a bit personal but could be bought for under 20.00. I was once the live in girlfriend and I bought all my now husband's family's gift and was given tacky cheap gifts that I know they had re-gifted. Not nice. She may be your sister-in-law one day. You might as well start the relationship off on a good note.

    Answer by CelticFaerie at 12:34 PM on Dec. 3, 2009

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