I know that adopted people in general tend to have more psychological problems. And that is with loving, caring, parents and a mom that does not pop in and out of their lives randomly.
The reason this could be damaging to the children is because she doesn't come back and STAY in their lives. If she did, they'd get to know her as their "bio mom" and learn why she couldn't care for them, and why they live separately, and that she does love them - and have roots. Like an open adoption. But, because she keeps -leaving-, probably after making promises to stay.. the biggest psychological issue that can form is a lack of trust in people. A lack of trust in general can lead to relationship issues, low self-esteem, severe behavioral problems as teenagers, a tendency to abuse drugs or become depressed/anxious. Kids also always ALWAYS blame themselves..
I think these kids are at very real risk and should be put in counseling.
at 12:16 PM on Dec. 4, 2009