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what does it all mean

i have been married 2 my hubby for 2 1/2 years only known him right at 3 years this week. only spent 15 months with him cuz deployments. always been fathful i am having r secong baby and things havent beenright with us for about a year and a half now, always fight dont spend much time 2gether rairly intamate always stressed, we also just moved we have talked about if we dont fix things we ownt make it. i love him and i cant imagen not being with him but i dont really feel happy and i am on vaca w/o him right now and i dont miss him that much. we will go days with only kissing once when he leaves for work. and we bairly talk and when we do he usualy thinks i am being suffocating and bitching.he wortke 15+hrs aday 6 days a week and wants 2 spend his off time alone or with other people. i really dont know what to do . we tryed for both of are kids but he is mean during pregnancy cuz i am emotional. i dunno what 2 do .need advice

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Asked by Anonymous at 10:54 AM on Dec. 5, 2009 in Relationships

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  • First of all, please refrain my typing as though you are texting. It's way too hard to understand. Otherwise, I would say follow your heart. If you can't work it out, then yes, something needs to be done. You are the only one who can make that decision though. Talk to him. If you can't get anywhere, threaten...

    Answer by Anonymous at 10:57 AM on Dec. 5, 2009

  • there are only so many characters i can use so i abbreviate so i can fit them all


    Answer by Anonymous at 10:58 AM on Dec. 5, 2009

  • everything, and the opposite of what your not doing :) spend time together. have sex or initiate, even if you guys are tired/stressed. etc.
    But if both are not in for the work, then it won't work.
    Marriage is work!
    I'm sorry you feel alone, and I hope things get better as you make time for one another...

    Answer by Anonymous at 10:59 AM on Dec. 5, 2009

  • I'm sorry if this is rude but why did you have children with this guy? Sounds like you were never in love with each other.

    Answer by Anonymous at 11:04 AM on Dec. 5, 2009

  • her question, so she can type how she wants :)

    Answer by Anonymous at 11:05 AM on Dec. 5, 2009

  • we were very much in love ii still am its him i  wounder about was barely 18 he just came home from war we ran away and eloped and started trying for r first daughter. he deployed so we chalked all it up 2 stress we were good when he got home and we decided 2 start trying again. but things r getting bad and hard again


    Answer by Anonymous at 11:06 AM on Dec. 5, 2009

  • Then try to work it out if you love him.

    Answer by Anonymous at 11:08 AM on Dec. 5, 2009

  • Sometimes "love" settles into a routine life together. If that doesn't work for you then perhaps it's time to seriously reconsider the arrangement. Just sit down them him and see what he wants to do about it.

    Answer by admckenzie at 11:14 AM on Dec. 5, 2009

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