My ex husband(also BF to my DD) is having a baby with the woman I caught him cheating with. We are not friends, in fact the relationship is quite a roller coaster. He isn't a deadbeat, but financially he doesn't pull his weight and he hasn't been following CO.
Today he calls and asks me to give him something of DD's, she is still small enough to use and my friend bought it for her. We were together at the time it was given, but he never asked for it to use for DD after we separated. BUT he'll call and ask if I'll give it to him for his child with this woman? I feel, our stuff has been long seperated and if DD needs something he can't provide I do. It is not my responsibility to help him prepare for this baby. If I wanted to give things away, I would give it to someone I cared for like one of my 4 friends that are due soon.
A part of me thinks this is petty, but I know if the shoe were on the other foot, he'd be no help.
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its very hard to get over feelings of hurt and anger, and or resentment toward the ex that done us wrong. Over thousands of woman and men deal with this everyday.Â The most important thing is to focus on the child and or in this case children. This baby from your ex and his SO has no idea what has happened between the 2 or perhaps the 3 of you and is a brand new loving little baby.Â these are just objects ( the toys), and the fact that he's asking you, might be someway he's trying to become a better person. This also will benefit the child you have together.Â (i have a jerk for and ex husband believe me i understand, how hard this can be for you) Whatever my child BF does or say's to get a rise outta me or doesn't think about our son best interest, is always hard, because you dont have control anymore, neither does he over you. Focus on being the best mother you can, and be the better person.
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