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im so irritated! (vent)

So almost a month ago my mil calls and asks to borrow 200 dollars for whatever reason. Were not the type of ppl that have that kind of money that's extra. So I told her the best we could do was get her a payday loan but she would have to pay it back. So we did and told her when it was due which is this thursday and she said she didn't have it! I'm sooo mad! Now we are going to have to pay it back and we have bills due! We were just trying to be nice and help her out some ya know?!

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blondiemaker07

Asked by blondiemaker07 at 10:32 AM on Dec. 7, 2009 in Relationships

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  • MIL should not be asking you for money. I'm sorry
    lowencope

    Answer by lowencope at 10:36 AM on Dec. 7, 2009

  • ok...i have a sister whom used to ask my hubby for money (she always had a reason), whether it was for her child's education matters, her bills, this or that. she always promised she'd have the money by this date and why she was getting the money.

    she eventually got up to over a couple thousands of dollars before we realized she never meant to pay nobody back (she borrowed from alof of other family members also). we never got paid back from her and took our loss (she was always making ends meet). this was a few years ago.

    a couple weeks ago she asked her boyfriend to ask us for money to pay for her car payment, we finally had the guts to say no. so if this is what she's like, then lesson learned the first time and dont end up like us where we ended up giving her alot more.
    americansugar80

    Answer by americansugar80 at 10:54 AM on Dec. 7, 2009

  • my mil use to ask us for money to and we were never in the position to loan it out but we did we did this for yrs!! id say we prob have given her close to 5000 in 5 yrs never one dime paid back.so one day my husband calls and says my mom needs money again,i told him no!!!! and everytime after i said no she does not ask for money from us anymore.even worse she has prob borrowed over 300,000 from her other son.the key is to say no.u owe her nothing!
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 11:15 AM on Dec. 7, 2009

  • I was in a similar situation, except it was my family member. Thousands borrowed over the years never repaid. At first I worked so it didn't hurt us. But when I left my job to be a SAHM! Ouch. We finally learned to say no. Chalk this up to a life lesson in loaning.
    Austinsmom35

    Answer by Austinsmom35 at 12:49 PM on Dec. 7, 2009

  • I would tell her that you are paying HUGE interest on this money, it is hurting your family, and ask what she has you can sell to get the money to pay the loan. And I would not give her a second chance to put my family in financial danger, no matter who she is. From now on, if she needs groceries, buy her groceries. If she needs something else, offer to contact someone and see if she can get on a payment plan. You are not in a position to be harmed while she benefits.
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 1:34 PM on Dec. 7, 2009

  • My in-laws like to manipulate and use people (SIL in head of the family, all 19 people live in the same house), so when we got together we decided no one could live with us and we won't loan any of them money, because we know they won't pay it back.
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 4:14 PM on Dec. 7, 2009

  • Pay it back, since you have to but still hound her for the money, plus interest of course! Every time you see her, ask for the money. When she asks for more, say she has to pay this back first. The nerve of her!
    Pnukey

    Answer by Pnukey at 4:28 PM on Dec. 7, 2009

  • Neither a borrower or a lender be. I've learned this lesson the hard way. Do not loan money to anyone unless you're willing to ruin the relationship over it!
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 8:35 PM on Dec. 7, 2009

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