Ok, so my mother is being very rude and mean. She recently gained A LOT of weight and has been depressed lately. I can not understand it but she throws mean words around without thinking first. Its troubles me because she watches my daughter Tuesday's & Thrusdays and I don't want her attitude to rub off on my daughter or hurt her. She has been coming home telling me she wants to go to school every day instead of going to my mothers. I don't really have the money to send her to school full time, but if I have to I guess I can make it work. I have talked to my mother and told her she seems miserable. but she shrugs it off like its not a big deal. She was taking some meds for something and she stopped taking them, I don't know what they are but my dad tells me he wishes she would take them again. I don't know what the heck is going on but something is. She has been "going through" menopause for 5 years or more so she says.Answer Question
Asked by Anonymous at 2:21 PM on Dec. 7, 2009 in General Parenting
Answer by Bmat at 2:23 PM on Dec. 7, 2009
Answer by Anonymous at 2:24 PM on Dec. 7, 2009
Menopausetakes as long as puberty to go through,if you didn't know. And it does the same thing as puberty but in reverse(hormones).
Answer by louise2 at 2:26 PM on Dec. 7, 2009
Answer by rkoloms at 2:29 PM on Dec. 7, 2009
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Answer by Anonymous at 2:32 PM on Dec. 7, 2009
Well, I like what all the previous posters have said about checking out her labs and seeing if she has any type of medical issues that can be resolved over time with medical interventions. Also, no matter what the reason, I would not have anyone watch my child who was mean or depressed. This does impact on a child. I may love a parent but my responsibility is with my child. I also wouldn't want my child to come to the conclusion this is how we act and respond. By the time a child reaches kindergarten they already have their ideas about how they cope and respond to others. Ask yourself, in 20 years if your daughter had any issues and acted like this....would you be able to tolerate it? If not - you have the answer to your question.
Answer by frogdawg at 6:37 PM on Dec. 7, 2009
Sounds like depression... It's so hard to deal with, especially when it's your mother and they don't want to hear what your saying. I have this same problem with my mom... I think you will need to find a way to make it work out for your child in a FT daycare / school and let your mother know how you feel. Good luck!
Answer by Anonymous at 5:03 PM on Dec. 8, 2009