You need to only do what you want to do. Don't do what society or family deems neccessary for a joyous holiday. We downsized our holiday years ago and have found it to be so much more enjoyable. We don't put up a full size tree, a table top pre lit tree is all we have and limit our decorations. We bake whatever we want and cook whatever we want. We only buy gifts for our own family (DH, myself, and kids) our parents get gift cards to their favorite store or restaurant, and we get our mail man a gift and also our neighbors (they keep an eye on our place when we are working out of town). If the kids are sick of being cooped up have them do arts and crafts or let them bake something (ignore the messes). Bills come 12 months out of the year not only at Christmas, deal with it like you do every other month. We put space between us and family that are issues with us, we do not miss the drama.
at 12:15 AM on Dec. 8, 2009