Join the Meeting Place for Moms!
Talk to other moms, share advice, and have fun!

(minimum 6 characters)

Am i over reacting?

My husband has women on his facebook that he doesnt even know. I asked him bout it and he said....oh they are friends w/ my brother and i just clicked on them and they appeared on my facebook. Don't know much about facebook, would u get upset or is it just my hormones? Im preggo w/ my 3rd and i have been pretty hormonal. So would u get upset or not?

Answer Question

Asked by Anonymous at 10:23 AM on Dec. 8, 2009 in About CafeMom

Answers (8)
  • Yes, I would be upset. If he doesn't know them they why add them to his page? Internet is an easy cause of marriage problems which is why neither I or DH have accounts on myspace or facebook.

    Answer by Jademom07 at 10:25 AM on Dec. 8, 2009

  • this is why we don't facebook.

    Answer by jewjewbee at 10:25 AM on Dec. 8, 2009

  • I'm not a fan of FB either. Don't be upset with him. It's probably FB helping him get friends. They get money for all these connections.

    Answer by admckenzie at 10:32 AM on Dec. 8, 2009

  • I would get upset because they don't just appear. Your husband may not be doing ANYTHING, but there is no reason for someone seeing your information that you don't know unless your trying to get to know them! I think that you should ask him to remove them, he shouldn't have a problem with this since the just "appeared"! Tell him that you are uncomfortable with this. If he gets upset or objects I would wonder if something else is up! Good luck hun!

    Answer by jlee38340 at 10:34 AM on Dec. 8, 2009

  • They don't just appear, he had to send a friend request to them or they had to sent a friend request to him and he had to accept them, people just can not become your friend on there without being accepted first. If I don't know someone and they friend request me, I just click ignore and yes that is what the button says... I would ask him to remove them, if he doesn't know them personally no reason to be friends on facebook... Now if they were friends before, I don't see anything wrong with that. I do have guy friends on facebook and hubby knows them too so he doesn't mind.

    Answer by midnightmoma at 10:41 AM on Dec. 8, 2009

  • It depends does he send notes back and forth to these women? Does his status say married? I know being pregnant can heighten your insecurities. If it were me I would make a facebook account and add him as a friend. If it is really bothering you you can ask your husband to delete those friends and if he dosent know them he shouldnt have a problem deleting them. Congrats on your baby!

    Answer by okmommy08 at 10:49 AM on Dec. 8, 2009

  • First of all, you have to manually add people to your Facebook (FB) friend's list. Clicking on their page only shows you the information they allow the public to see. They will not show up on your page unless they comment on something his brother has posted. Otherwise, they will be hidden to your DH. If they're on his friend's list he can see everything they post, what notes they make, pictures they upload, etc. He has to add them first though.

    I wouldn't be upset if my husband had girl friends on there, but I wouldn't feel comfortable with him having people on his friend's list he doesn't know. That, to me, is him still flirting around and acting as though he's single. I wouldn't be comfortable with that at all.

    Answer by JazzlikeMraz at 1:05 PM on Dec. 8, 2009

  • I would not be happy about it.

    Answer by wildflowers25 at 8:51 PM on Dec. 8, 2009

Join CafeMom now to contribute your answer and become part of our community. It's free and takes just a minute.