Not to offend any mothers here, but if you've adopted a child and their birth mom/dad call asking for money, transportation, to get them out of jail, etc. what do you do? Do you set up boundaries? Do you help, and if so, how?
Asked by Anonymous at 6:15 PM on Dec. 8, 2009 in Adoption
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Answer by Anonymous at 8:53 PM on Dec. 8, 2009
My child's birthmother did call us after she got out of jail and when she had no place to live. I will help. Just not in the way she might wish. I would use my skills as a social worker to track down housing opportunities, places she could to seek services, ect....but I would never directly give her money. I wouldn't bail her out of jail. My son just turned three and has two younger siblings living with her. Even if she called to say they were going to be taken away...I know she has family who in the past has offered assistance. She has hinted for money very strongly and we were always careful to not just be rude about her need but to let her know tactfully we are not in a position to do this. When she had her own place for the first time I bought her a set of dishes, cups, silverware, ect. I gave towels - basically a start your own place in one big delivery. She said all the dishes broke and she wanted cash.
Answer by frogdawg at 9:00 PM on Dec. 8, 2009
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