What words of wisdom during a death in the family would you say to someone?

Actually, I found that a good firm genuine hug or a shoulder to cry on provided me with more comfort than the words people spoke. Or even just a listening ear. As humans we all want to say just the right thing when someone dies. Even after having been through what I've been through I still struggle with trying to find words of wisdom when someone passes. Truth be known there really is nothing to say. Most of everything sounds trite......"Only God knows why things happen the way they do," "He's in a better place," "He's not suffering anymore." None of these phrases brought me any peace. "I'm sorry" is probably the best, most simplistic, comment, but even then you should be prepared for someone to potentially lash out in grieving and say something to the effect of, "Not as sorry as I am." The thing I disliked most of all was, "I can't imagine what you're going through." To that I could only reply, con't