So, I'm Pagan and my parents and husband's family are Christian, my husband is kind of "belief" oriented and doesn't like to claim a religion. So here's the problem, my family wants my daughter to have a Christian Christmas while my husband and I want her to have a Pagan Yule. It's not that big of a deal this year since she's only 6 months old, but when she gets a little older it's going to get very confusing for her. I want her to be able to see her grandparents on the holidays but my husband is afraid that she'll come home scared to death that we're all "going to hell" and doesn't really want her to be exposed to that. I don't think my parents would push their religion on her, but I know it's going to come up and it's taking a toll on my poor husband, and in the future it might be hard on my daughter too. How do I keep everyone together on the holidays without making everyone angry?
It really isn't as confusing for kids as we fear it might be. Celebrate Yule in your home as a family (without extended fam) & celebrate Christmas with your extended family at their homes. As she grows up tell her all of the winter holiday myths that you can find & make sure she knows that some people choose to follow just one myth, but others find "truth" (or beauty) in many of them. Teach her we can respect the choice of those who choose to believe just one version of the story (& celebrate it with them) without agreeing with them that it is the one true version.
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So have your family yule and let your family have a regular Christmas. I am not sure what a christian Christmas is, we are catholic and there is a nativityseen and that is about it. Some years we did go to church, but not really. So if it means a tree, presents and a great meal and get together then why not. Sounds like your family is worried about her religious up bringing. I would talk to them and ask that they respect your decisions about how to raise your child. I have had this discussion with my mother to many times. GL
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