I have 3 year old twins and a nin month old. The baby sleeps through the night and is a wonderful baby so I'm not tired or exhausted. I did have ppd bad with my twins to this time I started taking Zoloft immediately so it wouldn't become a problem. My issue is that I have absolutely no interest in sex. I love my husband more than ever and want to be physically close like cuddling and stuff but don't want to have sex. And another problem is that when I do give him hugs or try to cuddle he thinks its a green light for sex. We have had sex twice since the baby was born in March and both times it was only because I felt obligated to do it. Also I really didn't like my body after baby was born, but I'm getting better about it since I have dropped 30 pounds. I have talked to hubby and he understands, but I feel bad and like a bad wife. Has anyone else felt this way? What should I do?
Asked by Anonymous at 6:25 PM on Dec. 11, 2009 in Relationships
Answer by Liz132 at 8:03 PM on Dec. 11, 2009
Zoloft could definitely be the problem. One of the symptoms is no sex drive.
Answer by jblueeyes228 at 6:28 PM on Dec. 11, 2009
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Answer by Anouck at 6:56 PM on Dec. 11, 2009
Answer by Anonymous at 6:58 PM on Dec. 11, 2009
Low to no sex drive is usually a side effect of psychotropics and/or low estrogen levels. Talk with both your psychiatrist and doctor. Also, always remember that lust will not keep, something must be done about it. I found out it in marital counseling that most women make the mistake of thinking that sex is a tool they use to either reward or punish their husbands with. This is incorrect thinking. Sex is a part of the marital agreement, or property as it were and should not be withheld but given freely. Men are more physical than women and if denied, will go elsewhere quiet kept.
Answer by Ewadun at 6:59 PM on Dec. 11, 2009
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Answer by ThrivingMom at 7:48 PM on Dec. 11, 2009
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