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any ideas of discipline consequences?

i have a 5 yr old girl and 8 yr old boy. most of the time they are pretty good. this week has been hell though. im divorced and kids dont see the ex-jerk. he doesnt pay or anything. im remarried to a wonderful man who the kids adore. they were disrespectful yesterday and went to their rooms for half the day. today they didnt listen and i sent them to their rooms all day. this was after 2 warnings. i feel bad but they need to LISTEN! the room consequence isnt working very well. any other suggestions? btw, no tvs dS's, or radios were in their rooms.

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Asked by Anonymous at 6:29 PM on Dec. 11, 2009 in School-Age Kids (5-8)

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  • Make them clean while you sit there and watch your fav. show, tell them if they want to act grown you'll let them, but grown-ups have it hard. idk, just a thought

    Answer by Theone3608 at 6:51 PM on Dec. 11, 2009

  • My kids HATE standing in the corner more than anything, so that's where they go!

    Answer by Anonymous at 7:28 PM on Dec. 11, 2009

  • how long do you put them in the corner?

    Answer by cassie14127 at 7:38 PM on Dec. 11, 2009

  • What's in their room? If their room is full of toys and goodies, then it's not much of a punishment is it?

    Answer by Anonymous at 9:29 PM on Dec. 11, 2009

  • I would have them sit at the kitchen table and think about what they were doing wrong. Do they like reading or writing. I would have the 8yr old write maybe something like. "I will listen and not talk back" something like that. or have them do xtra chorse....

    Answer by kathynej7142007 at 12:59 PM on Dec. 12, 2009

  • I've been doing things the supernanny way and its really been working. Just give one warning, not two. If they choose not to listen they get a time out as long as the number of years old they are. Do not engage in any talk, do not look at them they just sit in a central spot being ignored. If they choose to get up the timer starts over again. If you do this a few times and really stick to you guns it will work. Then after they've sat for their full set of minutes without getting up or speaking you can "reconcile" with them. Give them a chance to understand why they were put there and to apologize for the unacceptable behavior. It lets them have some time alone to think (and you get to stay cool) and then give them a chance to make up.

    Answer by oregonmom22 at 2:13 PM on Dec. 12, 2009

  • something to think about, is if they are usually good kids-like mine-there is something going on the 2 weeks. the daycare kids have been horrible, my kids have been doing things they woudl normally never dream of doing, and all my friends who are teachers say their kids have been acting up, it's like a run thru the end of the year full moon. this is prob just a phase, but don't let them get away with it! sounds like you and your husband are doing a great job, you'll get thru it.

    Answer by mr2snafu at 9:08 PM on Dec. 12, 2009

  • WEll, You are sending them to their rooms for to long for start it should be a times about 10-15 min. Not all day or half the day I mean after the first hour of course they are going to make the best of it and just hang out. All they need is 15 min to think about why they are not allowed to be with the rest of the family at the moment. If their room was really that great they would have been in there to begin with. Try when there is an offense CALMLY saying that's your warning. Then next time you say CALMLY Room(with in about 2 hours otherwise it should be another warning). when they are done complaining about it you start the timer. when it goes of they may rejoin the family and the offense is not mentioned again. Room is not the only way to punish though. It could be Warning and then No t.V. this evening. If you decide to Talk about this new approach before it starts so everyone including DH is clear on the proces

    Answer by Anonymous at 12:43 PM on Dec. 13, 2009

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