I have 4 kids the youngest is 5. What I have done with all of them is tell them they have a choice
I get to their level, make sure eye contact is being made, tell them, they have 2 choices.
1. you can listen to me and pick up you toys (or whatever is going on at the moment) and things will be happy between us
2. you can choose to not listen to me and I can smack your but
This way I am making them choose the behavior and the consequence
Sometimes I have to hold my son by the shoulders and repeat myself ,, telling him he has to make a choice,,
I do not believe in spankings that are more like beatings....but nothing is wrong with a swat on the behind, pants pulled up.
Then there are times I just tell my husband he is yours, you deal with it and walk out of the house.
Never scream, kids get used to it and tune it out....reasoning works much better
at 3:22 PM on Dec. 13, 2009