I want to be happy but I can't seem to let my guard down... seems like my wall is always gonna get in the way. I meet someone new that seems to like me and I find ways to reject them... reason why we can't ever be together and tell them. I guess I just don't know how to go with the flow and let things happen on there own. Finally when I do put my guard down, all the good men are gone and I get stuck with the one who treats me bad. I don't want to do this to myself ever again. I wanna be open for possibilities and not scared all the time that I am gonna get hurt, then end up with a jerk when I am finally ready to try again. Any advice would help. Thanks in advance.Answer Question
Answer by Anonymous at 11:06 AM on Dec. 15, 2009
Answer by jenny2150 at 11:07 AM on Dec. 15, 2009
Answer by lowencope at 11:09 AM on Dec. 15, 2009
Answer by Gailll at 11:12 AM on Dec. 15, 2009
Answer by ProudMom_5703 at 11:17 AM on Dec. 15, 2009
You have to allow yourself to be vulnerable sometimes.
Maybe in your subconscious you think you cannot keep the wonderful man, so you somehow allow yourself to settle for the lesser man. A LOT of women do this. A lot of woman have dis-trust for nice guys, because they are not used to it. Maybe they had a mean father figure or something, so that seems to be the norm for them.
I would try to make friends for now. Don't get involved too quickly, just make some male friends with no sexual bonds to try & make a lasting friendship. This will help you gain trust for the good guys & it will leave you without the sexual attachment which can sometimes ruin what would have been a good relationship. Friends first, sex later. Best way to build a lasting relationship.
Answer by samurai_chica at 11:18 AM on Dec. 15, 2009
Answer by ProudMom_5703 at 3:40 PM on Dec. 15, 2009
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