My son is measuring his life by his successes of which he feels he has none. He works in a job with maybe 50% satisfaction. He was laid-ff from a job he loved. He has a girlfriend with commitment problems but he dearly loves her and does not want another relationship to fail. The list goes on and on. I have tried to assure him he is not old enough to be a failure but he doesn't see it that way. All he sees is he is one big failure after another. How can I help him see himself as a success when he has no way of measuring a success based on his current job and relationship issues?Answer Question
Asked by Anonymous at 11:06 PM on Dec. 15, 2009 in Adult Children (18+)
Talk to him about his goals. What does he want to accomplish? Where does he want to be in 5 years? 10 years?, etc. Have him write down his goals and what he needs to do to accomplish them. Reassure him that even if he doesn't get everything that he wants it doesn't mean that he is a failure. Failures are the ones who didn't even try. If he is not satisfied with his job, maybe he can take a few classes and gain a skill in something that he might enjoy. Or maybe help him go over his resume and encourage him to send out so many per month. It is a hard time right now for jobs and I am sure that he is aware of that, but there are things that he can be doing while he is waiting for a better job to open up. Good Luck!
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