Currently do not have custody of my son.. However I do get resonable visitions with him. However my boyfreind doesn't seem to want to spend time with "us" (my son and I) when I do have him. I can understand that he is not the father. And that time should be for me and my son. My point is that I love my boyfriend and would like for my son to know he is part of my life and would for my son to be ok with that. However my boyfriend feels like I am trying to push him into being a step dad. I need some understanding. I am not pushing my son to call anybody else 'dad'. I just want him to know that his dad and I are no longer together and moved on with our lives.
Asked by Anonymous at 4:13 PM on Dec. 16, 2009 in Relationships
wow that's a touchy subject. Be prepared!! LOL..Its hard fro everyone to adjust. When you have a separation in your life, you have to remember that it involves everyone els in your life too. Just relax. Go on abut your day when the 3 of you are together , let them warm up to each other naturaly. If its important to you, that you let your child know you've moved on, then focus on him. If your bf is nervous about the "step dad" thing, then it wont help him relax and become friends if he "feels pressured" ( even though you know you not pressuring) If your son feels tension it will be hard from him to warm up to your BF. Your not asking too much, just maybe its too soon, to expect overnight "family". I say this because i've been were you are. Relax.Breath.Enjoy.
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