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what does it mean when you go from haveing sex every other day to once a week?

my boyfriend an i use to have sex almost every day then it went to every other day an now were at once maybe twice a week. An then when we do have sex he last about 20mins when he could go for hours. whats that mean help me please

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Asked by kyrie0406 at 9:36 PM on Dec. 17, 2009 in Relationships

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  • It doesn't necessarily mean anything. He could just be going through a phase. Or he just doesn't feel the need to have sex that much, he already has you.

    Answer by zoeysmom331 at 9:42 PM on Dec. 17, 2009

  • or he could be cheating

    Answer by Anonymous at 9:53 PM on Dec. 17, 2009

  • your growing up and the relationship as evolved from sex to real life... it is no big deal

    Answer by Anonymous at 9:54 PM on Dec. 17, 2009

  • It could be that he is tired from work, he is out of the honeymoon stage, he is comfortable with you, the relationship isn't all about sex.

    Answer by tyfry7496 at 9:57 PM on Dec. 17, 2009

  • All that sex broke his weenie. LOL

    Answer by Anonymous at 9:57 PM on Dec. 17, 2009

  • Welcome to the stage after the honeymoon stage. Nobody can keep that up forever unless he's on Viagra or something. Find another flower arranging or scrapbooking ...J/K LOL! If it bothers you that much ASK HIM! I have no idea why women are so afraid of just asking their husband/boyfriend for an answer to a question that is bothering them. The only way you'll know is if you ask him!

    Answer by Allergic2Stupid at 10:57 PM on Dec. 17, 2009

  • This happens to most couples. No, it does NOT mean he is cheating. This is completely normal, and it happens the longer you are with a person (with most people). When you first get with someone you are majorly attracted. They're something new and exciting, but as time progresses, you get use to each other. You're still attracted, but you're not having raging hormones like you did. For about a year or two, my DH and I had sex every day, or every other day, then we started slowing down after that.

    Answer by Anonymous at 11:09 PM on Dec. 17, 2009

  • i think this is normal in many relationships, kind of like you know its there, you know you can when ever you want where as before, who knew when you would see each other or if you would have time, when the next time you would be able to etc. then when you start living together its like wow this is great we can do it everyday!! then you reach a point where its like ok im tired today we'll do it tomorrow.. then it becomes easier to neglect that part of the relationship, if it really really bothers you then you need to talk to him about it or maybe just try doing something about it i think sometimes as women we wait on the men to start it but hey sometimes they want to feel wanted too and you need to make the first move, i know i can be bad at starting it lol

    Answer by mommie2twogirls at 11:46 PM on Dec. 17, 2009

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