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How to stress the importance of getting an education?

I have a 19 year old who has always hated school. He is working and moved out, but barely surviving financially. He is enrolled in Community College but hates it. How do you get it into their head the importance of a college education with this economy? You know how it goes, you can tell them a million times but.....unless they want to....

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Asked by Anonymous at 12:03 PM on Dec. 19, 2009 in Adult Children (18+)

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  • It's exactly like you said "Unless they want to". If they're not going to college on their terms and for a major that they want to take, it is absolutely pointless to go to college. They have to be passionate about what they're going to college for, otherwise they're not going to care about grades, homework, projects, or even attending class. Do you really see a point in conviencing your child to do something that makes them unhappy? Is that really your goal in life as a parent, to make your child do as you wish even if they're unhappy? Let your child decide what is best for them. There are PLENTY of jobs out there that are good paying jobs, that don't require a college education. It is a waste of money if you send a child to college for something they're not going to use in the carreer field after college. Most majors require in field experience before anyone will take them on as a employee after college.

    Answer by JazzlikeMraz at 12:11 PM on Dec. 19, 2009

  • Most places don't do internships anymore either. Which means that your child is wasting your money on an "education" that will not benefit them after college. College is to build the experience and educational portion of a resume', and if what they're studying won't directly benefit they're career it is a waste of money spent. Too many people believe that if a child goes to college then they will succeed further in life. The only reason that's the case is if their major directly effects their career. For example: If a child majors in photography, graduates, and gets a career in photography. That is the ONLY way that college is at all effective. It is specific based education unlike K-12, which is an education to teach you the basic fundimentals of everyday life. College doesn't teach that, it teaches specifics that is useless unless they're passionate about it. Don't push something onto your child that makes them unhappy.

    Answer by JazzlikeMraz at 12:17 PM on Dec. 19, 2009

  • He may like it if he was enrolled in a specific program that had a job outcome like radiology technology. That is commonly offered at state community colleges. Or, he may like online courses.

    Answer by Gailll at 12:20 PM on Dec. 19, 2009

  • Going to school just to get a degree isn't very motivational and in the long run the degree isn't that helpful unless he's interested in a certain fields. What does he want to do? Trade school might be better for him if there's a career he wants to pursue. The most motivational thing will be learning what it's like to live on a limited income. Hopefully he will decide that an education will help him in the long run.


    Answer by maxswolfsuit at 12:34 PM on Dec. 19, 2009

  • Hey Jazz you obviously don't live in Michigan. There are

    Answer by Anonymous at 1:32 PM on Dec. 19, 2009

  • NO jobs here and an education is a necessity. I see you have two babies, not sure why you are on the 18+ but if you had a kid making minimum wage his whole life when he is very intellengent would you be happy with that? Love the haters on the website, the are so kind to people it amazes me. Be careful to judge your day will come.

    Answer by Anonymous at 1:34 PM on Dec. 19, 2009

  • keep telling him about education, he is listening, you can only hope and prey he chooses college. it seems like most young adults just want everything now without thinking of the long term ( i know thats what my kids do lol). my adult kids have struggled throughout their twenties and only recently returned to college. its hard to watch but they have to learn. good luck, have a great holiday.

    Answer by ohio4 at 3:50 PM on Dec. 19, 2009

  • You can't. Let him work to a point where he realizes if he wants a better job, he'll need the education. Then it'll be up to him to do so.

    Answer by Anonymous at 11:38 AM on Dec. 21, 2009

  • When he finds his calling, he will find motivation along with it. It may or may not required a certain education.

    Answer by Anonymous at 8:05 AM on Dec. 22, 2009

  • You're wrong. A college degree is worth nothing in this economy. Let him do something he likes.

    Answer by Anonymous at 11:26 PM on Dec. 27, 2009

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