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Putting up a wall is the only way I can keep from getting hurt. Do you ever feel this way?

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Asked by Anonymous at 11:45 PM on Dec. 19, 2009 in Relationships

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  • i'm 22 and i've been that way since i was very young, about 6 maybe earlier. i was very advanced. i was born an adult lol only thing that sucks about being born that way, responsible, intelligent far beyond my years, reasonable, is that i got the depression and anxiety as well. just don't let it ruin your life. i have a very hard time with it. when me and DH have problems we talk about it but i still get defensive. it's unhealthy.

    Answer by Anonymous at 11:56 PM on Dec. 19, 2009

  • I used to, but then i realized that i couldn't feel any of the good if i didn't feel some of the bad.

    Answer by Hali_Taylor at 12:01 AM on Dec. 20, 2009

  • I put up walls when people get too close! I try to push hem away and it works but then I would get a little lonely. I tried to put up walls with my ex and he could see through them and told me he wasn't giving up that easily and asked why I did it. Well 7yrs later I wish I had kept those walls up with him!!! Its a defense mechanism and sometimes is useful and sometimes is damaging! How to define that fine line!? Take your time with it!!! I wish I had taken another year to learn his secrets and lies, but that's my punishment for believing in a man!

    Answer by Anonymous at 12:10 AM on Dec. 20, 2009

  • i had that problem for a long time and i learned something very important this year when i met my husband those walls i had surrounding me, funny they were no where to be found, when its right you know for me when those walls are there i know somethings wrong

    Answer by mommie2twogirls at 1:47 AM on Dec. 20, 2009

  • you've got to learn to love yourself and the walls will come down on their own...there's nothing anyone can do to take away my love for myself and my took me a long time and a lot of heartache to get to this point....but its a lovely place to be

    Answer by LoriaAnn at 1:50 AM on Dec. 20, 2009

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