My 12 year old is isolating in his room way more than usual. He has been texting more than normal. Not coming down for meals, and didn't even want to decorate the tree this year! That's his favorite. He's not talking much and really doesn't want anything for Christmas this year. We are considering limiting his phone use of course. He erased something on his phone when we went to do his weekly phone check. So we know something is up. We think he may have a girlfriend and is embarrassed but want to make sure he's not depressed or something else. I'm sure there are a ton of things it could be, but how do we make sure he's okay, without embarrassing him, or compromising his trust for us?Answer Question
Asked by Anonymous at 11:29 AM on Dec. 20, 2009 in Tweens (9-12)
Answer by mom2BOYZnDad at 11:42 AM on Dec. 20, 2009
Definitely sounds like he's beginning puberty and his behavior could be perfectly normal. Since you pay the phone bill, wanna be sure of his well being, and he's being secretive, I'd check the phone whenever I felt like it. My son began exhibiting the same behavior around the same age. And guess what? He was too ashamed to admit he was masturbating and also had begun looking at dirty pictures. My only clues were: the amount of toilet paper being used, checking his phone and Internet sites and finding porno magazines. (I didn't have any of this stuff in my house in any form). Dad's gotta step up more to the plate and you've gotta step back a little. It's a guy thing. If you haven't had THE TALK or established boundaries on dating, now's the time.
Answer by Ewadun at 12:00 PM on Dec. 20, 2009
Answer by admckenzie at 5:28 PM on Dec. 20, 2009
Answer by rkoloms at 8:38 PM on Dec. 20, 2009