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Child Support VS Visitation (the moral dilemma)

Now, legalities aside...

Is it (IYO) morally "wrong" to deny a father who is delinquent in his child support payments, visitation with his children?

Even though BY LAW they are considered two separate issues, and the support IS for the children. Is it not more important that the children have a relationship with their father- regardless of how the mother may feel about him, or his monetary value?

It is illegal to deny visitation to the noncustodial parent based upon delinquent child support payments, so one would be, in effect, in a moral/legal catch 22.

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ObbyDobbie

Asked by ObbyDobbie at 5:51 PM on Dec. 22, 2009 in Religion & Beliefs

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  • If you are denying visitation strictly on the basis of non payment of child support yes it is morally wrong. I do not think you can legally do that anyway if you have a parenting plan that lays out a visitation schedule.
    leefraagh

    Answer by leefraagh at 5:53 PM on Dec. 22, 2009

  • I believe it is more important that they children have a relationship with their father. If they were curious when they were older I would explain that, for whatever reason, their father refused/didn't pay childsupport, but other than that he should be able to see the children. IMO.
    WindyTheWidow

    Answer by WindyTheWidow at 5:54 PM on Dec. 22, 2009

  • No,I don't think it's wrong if he is sufficently behind in child support. If he can't support his kid, than he doesn't need be a parent. I wouldn't let him see his kids.
    SaraP1989

    Answer by SaraP1989 at 5:55 PM on Dec. 22, 2009

  • The relationship is more important. Right now there are families married and divorced both, who are struggling and cannot "support" their child through no fault of their own. I don't think someone should lose the rights to see his child because his employer moved the plant to Mexico.
    NotPanicking

    Answer by NotPanicking at 5:55 PM on Dec. 22, 2009

  • Child support is the right of the child. It's more important that the child have the funds they need to eat, have shelter, clothing and health care than a seeing their "other" parent when the parent feels like seeing the child. Most states view child support and visitation as two separate issues and will only go after child support if custodial parent is receiving welfare. This is where the system FAILS children and their custodial parent. There are several ways around the CS vs Visitation and many advocates for women and children fight every day to make sure the person getting visitation is paying to support that child.

    legalmommy101

    Answer by legalmommy101 at 6:06 PM on Dec. 22, 2009

  • I would not deny visitation strictly based on child support. The kids benefit from having a relationship with their father and they should not be told about child support payments.  Each state has their own laws and penalties when a parent tries to block  visitation.

    RyansMom001

    Answer by RyansMom001 at 6:09 PM on Dec. 22, 2009

  • Child support is the right of the child. It's more important that the child have the funds they need to eat, have shelter, clothing and health care than a seeing their "other" parent when the parent feels like seeing the child.


    There are other ways to penalize a parent for non payment of child support.  Wage garnishment, jail time, court appearances in front of the judge to explain delinquency, court ordered collection of assets including those in the persons home. 


    I'm not saying its easy I know there are people who will refuse to work just so they don't pay child support, however very often these people have other personality defects and should often have visitation limited for other reasons like not being responsible when the children are in their care. 

    RyansMom001

    Answer by RyansMom001 at 6:30 PM on Dec. 22, 2009

  • It's more important that the child have the funds they need to eat, have shelter, clothing and health care than a seeing their "other" parent when the parent feels like seeing the child.

    You can't get blood from a turnip. Why should a child be deprived of a parent just because the parent is laid off?
    NotPanicking

    Answer by NotPanicking at 6:32 PM on Dec. 22, 2009

  • Child support is the right of the child. It's more important that the child have the funds they need to eat, have shelter, clothing and health care than a seeing their "other" parent when the parent feels like seeing the child. Most states view child support and visitation as two separate issues and will only go after child support if custodial parent is receiving welfare. This is where the system FAILS children and their custodial parent. There are several ways around the CS vs Visitation and many advocates for women and children fight every day to make sure the person getting visitation is paying to support that child.

    If that's what's really important why don't we terminate parental rights of the unemployed and put their children in foster care until they have an income again?
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 6:33 PM on Dec. 22, 2009

  • If the father is otherwise an decent person/father, you shouldn't make the children suffer from not having contact with their father...let them see him and let the law handle him on non payment, because if he is ordered to pay support he can get in trouble for not paying it right? Let the law handle that, take it to the lawyers, not deny you children the right to see their dad...now if the dad is a bad father and potentially harmful, that's a different story.

    iLovenml

    Answer by iLovenml at 6:34 PM on Dec. 22, 2009

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