the guy who raped me several years ago left xmas gifts for my kids by my front door, lucky enough my husband found them b4 the kids got home from school, my husband opened them took the toys out, put them in the toy box and threw away the candy. and said nothing to the kids about the toys, they didnt even notice them when they got home. i talk to his girlfriend who used to be my friend the other day cause she kept driving past my house so i called private and asked why she was driving by she said that her bf( the guy who raped me) wanted to see me i said oh hell no i dont want him here, she said well he having a hard time cause of the holidays and he has stuff for the kids i said i dont care i dont want him here period..
so should i confront her about this( i dont have anyway to contact him) or let it go this time and act like nothing happened. whats your advice?
Asked by Anonymous at 11:39 PM on Dec. 22, 2009 in Relationships
Answer by robyann at 2:31 PM on Dec. 23, 2009
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Answer by tntmom1027 at 11:45 PM on Dec. 22, 2009
I'm assuming you and she broke up because of her relationship with him? If so, then yes. I would tell her that her boyfriend couldn't ever buy my forgiveness and why, either directly or indirectly (through my kids). As for the toys, I would pack them up and give them away to either a domestic violence shelter or rape/incest survivor group. Perhaps it's just me but I'd never, ever let his energy into my home, around me, my kids, or my husband ever again. I'm proud of you for being able to get past this experience and find true love, not to mention not losing your sensuality. I too am a survivor and still have nightmares. I hope that you, like me, will pray for the men who rape.
Answer by Ewadun at 11:50 PM on Dec. 22, 2009
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