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what are your five top secrets to a better relationship/marriage/love life?

jw to see what different answers i get.

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Asked by kelliekailei at 1:56 AM on Dec. 23, 2009 in Just for Fun

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  • 1. trust. if you think he is cheating and are constantly bugging him about it, then he probably will cheat or leave you...if you believe it that much leave him or go to counsiling.Also if he does cheat...its his fault, not hers.
    2. the kids come first, but some nights, you just have to put them to bed early and spend some times together.
    3. It is good to means you are comfortable enough to express your feelings and you also wont let it build...arguing is good...hitting is bad.
    4. it is good to have time to yourself or with your something without him every once in awhile... it gives you a break and will actually make you miss him and him miss you.
    5. you have to have sex..atleast every once in awhile.
    there is soo much more but I cant think...but I will probaly add more tomorrow

    Answer by glamomomo at 2:13 AM on Dec. 23, 2009

  • 1.) Your spoused is a person, they are going to mess up. As long as they try and rectify their mistake or they genuinly apologize for it then just let it go.

    2.) Sex is not a weapon, just because he didn't take out the trash doesn't mean you can with hold sex. It's stupid and it makes a stupid little argument into a stupid BIG argument.

    3.) If you can't settle something the first time with out yelling. Don't continue with the argument right then, wait until you both calm down and can rationally present your points.

    4.) Issues about how to raise children and how many children to have need to be resolved BEFORE you have children. If he wants one and you want ten you two need to talk about it, and getting pregnant "accidently" (i.e. not taking your BC and lying about it) is a deal breaker once you're married the number of kids to have is a decision BOTH of you should make it's not just the womans choice


    Answer by Anonymous at 2:13 AM on Dec. 23, 2009

  • 5.) If you cannot trust your spouse then you're wasting your time. There's never been a succesful relationship that was not based on trust.

    Answer by Anonymous at 2:14 AM on Dec. 23, 2009

  • 1. communication, without it you cant get anywhere
    2. laughing, it sounds silly but if you dont laugh in your relationship, it isnt fun and marriage has to be fun
    3. make time, you have to make time for each other so you can reconnect when life gets crazy
    4. back each other up, with your kids, your inlaws, with anyone in general always have each others back even if you dont fully agree dont let others see it
    5. be friends first, if my dh and i had not formed a strong friendship first i think it would be more of a struggle when there are no longer kids and daily life to discuss. Being friends opens many more doors in a marriage.

    I could keep going lol but these are some of the main things that keep my marriage happy and functioning in a healthy way, I also agree that you have to fight every now and then if you dont you are not truly communicating.

    Answer by 3_ring_circus_ at 2:19 AM on Dec. 23, 2009

  • 1- don't set your standards too high, or he's bound for failure (don't set them too low either though)
    2- trust, you both need to learn to trust each other and be trust worthy
    3- communitcation, it's fine if you disagree as long as you can talk calmly about it
    4- time alone, sometimes kids can make things crazy
    5- sex, even if your like me and just had a baby, try to keep up with your sex life.

    Answer by Hali_Taylor at 2:29 AM on Dec. 23, 2009

  • Laughing - if you can't laugh together you're screwed
    Owning up - you are just as annoying as he is, don't start to think that your crap doesn't stink and all problems are his fault
    Privacy - there are 2 people in your marriage, keep your parents, inlaws, friends and siblings out of it
    Choose your battles - complain about the toilet seat or complain about picking up socks, if you complain about everything he'll tune you out
    Reality - if he surfed porn, played video games or picked his toes before you married him he's not going to stop just because you marry him, expecting him to do so is your failing, not his.

    Answer by Anonymous at 4:54 AM on Dec. 23, 2009

  • 1. Compromise - let the little things go and be prepared to give a little.
    2. Trust - if you don't trust your husband, who is supposed to be your lifemate, then who can you trust?
    3. Get it off your chest - do NOT let serious matters simmer until they boil up and you spew like a volcano. Deal with problems as they occur and allow your spouse a chance to speak his mind.
    4. Listen - not just to the words, but to the feelings and emotions behind them. Truly listen to your spouse with all your being so you can know what he is truly trying to say.
    5. Patience - you need to be patient. Not all men were raised as you were so they are not going to see things the way you see them. Your spouse will need to to come around to your way of thinking, just as you need to try to take time to come around to his way of thinking.

    Answer by PrydferthMenyw at 7:00 AM on Dec. 23, 2009

  • This is exactly what works for us guys What is Needed For a Successful Marriage


    Answer by CosyMama at 10:36 AM on Dec. 23, 2009

  • Communication
    Trust/honesty...can't have one without the other
    humor name a few!

    Answer by salexander at 11:35 AM on Dec. 23, 2009

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