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Asked by chereecedionne at 3:55 AM on Dec. 23, 2009 in Relationships

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  • why do you want out? I think that this is an open question... you need to supply us with a little more information so we know why you want out and all the other circumstances.... sorry!

    Answer by sxc_mom_of2 at 3:58 AM on Dec. 23, 2009

  • I agree with sxc mom of2, we do need more info. Are afraid of people being physically hurt or emotionally?

    Answer by pnwmom at 4:04 AM on Dec. 23, 2009

  • You can plan an event, but not necessarily the outcome. You must always do whatever is best for you and your kids. The only person you can control is you.

    Answer by Ewadun at 5:41 AM on Dec. 23, 2009

  • In every relationship if someone wants out, someone is going to get hurt whether it's you, him or the kids.
    Maybe he feels the same way but doesn't want to be "the bad guy". I'd consider having a family meeting and everyone talk about things "we" can do to improve the quality of the relationships. Or you and him sit and have that same conversation about your relationship. Could be he wants out too and you could work together to make it an easier transition for everyone. I always suggest trying to make it work together as a team before giving up tho, especially if there's kids involved and no domestic abuse.
    If he comes home one day and you're just gone, there's going to be some major problems because it's a big shocker to him and he'll be angry and more hurt that he didn't have any idea it was coming or at that point yet and it's harder.

    Answer by lisa_ann_p at 7:43 AM on Dec. 23, 2009

  • Sometimes a little hurt now keeps from having a lot of hurt later so just get out if you want out. If you stay and let someone think it's more than it is then the hurt will be worse later

    Answer by admckenzie at 10:52 AM on Dec. 23, 2009

  • It really is not usually possible to end a relationship without someone feeling hurt.

    Answer by JewelsE at 11:03 AM on Dec. 23, 2009

  • You can't end a relationship without someone getting hurt, usually even if you are the one to end it, you still hurt too. If the other person has no idea you want out then they will def get hurt and be angry. I suggest, talking to the other person, if you can. At least if they don't agree with you leaving, they'll know it's coming. If this is a case of abuse, just make your plan, and run.

    Answer by robyann at 12:49 PM on Dec. 23, 2009

  • The only way that can happen is if you both mutually want to end it. Otherwise, someone will be hurt.

    Answer by kathyartist2007 at 5:13 PM on Dec. 23, 2009

  • Someone is going to get hurt, regardless. It is better for you to leave and be happy then to stay and make everyone around you miserable.

    Answer by Anonymous at 10:20 PM on Dec. 23, 2009

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