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My ex won't leave me alone - be patient or do something? HELP!

My ex who I broke up with over 3 years ago won't stop trying to contact me. He is a psycho and destroyed my life so I want nothing to do with him. I went to great lengths to have no attachments to him - even breaking friendships that were dear to me. Unfortunately with the internet, despite them living on the other side of the universe, they still try to contact me. I have a myspace page but this is for my band which is growing in popularity and so on that basis can't get rid of that. But even so they still try to contact. I haven't responded to their messages for over 2 years either.

How long do you reckon it will take before they get the message? My boyfriend has even noticed (due to the linkages in facebook) that my ex put old photos of me up on there recently. We chose to not saying anything hoping they would f*** off but he still hasn't.

I don't know what to do. Trying to see them as a obsessive fan as they ha.

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Asked by Anonymous at 5:31 PM on Dec. 23, 2009 in Relationships

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  • CONT....have even subscribed to my personal youtube account where i play guitar.

    What would you do? Continue to ignore and consider them an obsessive fan seeing as they are across the waters...or say something? It's getting really pathetic! How long does it take someone to get the picture?

    Answer by Anonymous at 5:32 PM on Dec. 23, 2009

  • Do not respond... just ignore them like you have. I learned that the hard way. Even when you are telling them to leave you alone, they think the lines for communication are open again. I wish you the best of luck... I finally got my ex to back off about a month ago by blocking him on every site that he had a chance to contact me on plus I did the same with my cell phone.

    Answer by ProudMom_5703 at 5:58 PM on Dec. 23, 2009

  • ignore it there isnt much else you can do. i have an ex like that as well it's been nearly two years and im married yet he still tells ppl we r together still.

    just ignore it or it will never stop

    good luck

    Answer by tntmom1027 at 7:04 PM on Dec. 23, 2009

  • Is there a way you can delete and block him? Other than that about the only thing to do is ignore him and hope he goes away.
    Good luck!

    Answer by Anonymous at 7:53 PM on Dec. 23, 2009

  • I'd block him on every site. You don't have to delete the account, just block individuals but I suspect he would just get an alias account and subscribe anyway.
    Posting pictures of you without your permission might be a tad bit illegal and it sounds almost stalkerish so I'd likely ask an officer off the record what you could or should do.

    Answer by lisa_ann_p at 9:16 PM on Dec. 23, 2009

  • Thanks guys...glad to know I am doing the right thing. I will also look into the pictures but I would prefer not to remember he has them :(

    Answer by Anonymous at 7:54 AM on Dec. 24, 2009

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