My daughter, 12-years-old, told her class aide that I said I "would kill her" when we were arguing. Unfortunately, I did say those words and I also grabbed her sweatshirt collar when she yelled at me to tell her "Respect your mother!" For these incidents she was removed from my home, yesterday, the day before Christmas Eve until this coming Monday.
I live every molecule of my life for my daughter and have gotten her great services. I am middle-aged, unemployed with no help. Her father, who never takes her for visitation, was forced to by CPS.
Now my daughter is not home for Christmas, I feel like Ishould wear a scarlet letter. I also feel like I don't want her back. It's too much work and this is what I get.
How can Isurvive? I have a therapist who hasn't been able to see me during this crisis. I want to just pick up and move and begin a new life and leave this ungrateful high maintenace gir.
Answer by ronjwake at 8:33 PM on Dec. 24, 2009
I am so sorry that you are going through this. My youngest (age 7) tries my patience daily. She is not autistic, but has ADHD, Central Auditory Processing Disorder and dyslexia. Some days I feel like throttling her! She does things just to piss me and her sisters off, and doesn't care. I know I've said things to her that I shouldn't, and I hope that those things don't come back to haunt me one day. She already told her special ed teacher that her dad yells at her all the time and scares her. The teacher called me, and I told her the whole long story behind that disaster. I couldn't imagine what would happen if she was taken away...
*hugs* to you. If you feel too awful and really need to get through this crisis, I would consider going to an ER for emergency psych. Not saying that you need to, but I had a crisis 2 yrs ago and couldn't see my therapist. I ended up in the ER, not by my own choice...
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